Love requires action. It's not something we try to get for ourselves, but instead is an action we express to others through sharing and serving.
I was thinking about a few different forms of love God has instructed us to demonstrate, or "live out." And each one needs to be balanced, so they can work together.
#1 Loving God
Deuteronomy 6:5 says, You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and mind and with all your soul and with all your strength. Jesus later repeats this and even labels it the most important commandment of all.
So, how do you express love for God? By telling God, "I love You"? Singing praises to Him? These are good things, but they only scratch the surface.
We show God we love Him through obedience because actions definitely speak louder than words. It’s tough, and we won’t always feel like we want to obey. But I believe our desire for obedience grows as we continue to experience His love, goodness and faithfulness in our lives. #2 Loving Yourself
In the New Testament, Jesus said the greatest commandment of all is to love God with all our heart. But He also added the second greatest commandment: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. (See Mark 12:31.)
There's something important here that I think people often miss: You cannot give away something you don't have in you. How can someone love another person if they don't love themselves?
We all need to accept ourselves—our personalities and imperfections—knowing that although we are not where we need to be, we are making progress. God wants us to love ourselves and our identity in Him!
#3 Loving Others
God's love is a gift to us; it's in us, but we need to release it to others through words and actions. Left dormant, it will stagnate like a pool of water with no outlet.
1 John 3:14 says, We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers. Whoever does not love abides in death. Life, in this verse, is the life of God or "life as God has it." And loving others is the only way to keep that God-kind of life flowing through you. I don't want to be one of what I call "the walking dead"─someone who lives and breathes but never truly lives as God desires.
The act of loving others is one of the most exhilarating things I have experienced. I feel excitement stirring in my spirit when I do something to make someone else feel loved and cared for. And You can experience the same exhilaration just by "loving out loud."
I love this woman so much! She's amazing... She's my rock ... and my best friend! Have an awesome day mommy! I love you!
UDATE OF MOM'S DAY........
So here is how her day went.... My mom had a lunch date with one of her brothers today... which she enjoyed so much! But........... before she left the house... half of what's on this table showed up. Each one of my kids and myself sent or gave her flowers for her birthday today. This is what the table looked like after all the flower arrived! PERFECT! My mom couldn't have been more surprised or felt more loved! Which was the goal! :)
A table full of beauty and love!
A Floral Birthday Cake.
This is the bouquet of flowers I had sent to my mom.
Here is the little birthday cake I brought home for mom.
This is a BBQ towel I crocheted the top on for her to hang on the grill. She had asked me if I would make her one a week ago or so.... I thought.. what a neat little birthday gift it would make... so...... here it is. :)
My little Miss Molly and her bother Buddy turn 2 years old today! I bought Molly as an Anniversary gift to myself for/from Ken. We had talked about each getting a puppy after all the kids had Graduated and moved out. Ken and I were not wanting to be "empty nesters" :) I now have Molly to help me get through the days of missing Ken.
Buddy is my daughters puppy!
Molly & Buddy The day we got them.
2 years later.... my sweet little Molly brings such joy to our lives!!
slip stitch, dc= double crochet, magic circle, sc= single crochet, st= stitch,
sk= skip, sp= space
Simple cluster: 3dc in same st
Single V: 1dc, ch2, 1dc in same st
Double V: 2dc, ch2, 2dc in same st
~Ch3 counts as dc in each round~
Rnd 1: Create a magic circle with 12dc for beginning center…
join circle with sl st to first dc.
Rnd 2: ch3, dc in same stitch as ch3 – 2dc in each dc around… join with sl st
Rnd 3: sl st into next st – ch3, 2dc in same stitch with ch3 – sk next st – *3dc
in next st (simple cluster) – sk next st * *repeat around joining with sl st to top of
ch3 (12 simple clusters)
Rnd 4: sl st into next st – ch3, dc, ch2, 2dc All in same st -*sk next 2 dc –
double V in the next st* * repeat around joining with sl st to top of ch3 (12
Rnd 5: sl st into next st – ch3 – double V in ch2 sp – dc in
next st – sk next 2 dc’s – *dc in next st - double V in ch2 sp – dc in next st
– sk next 2 dc’s* * repeat around joining with sl st at top of ch3
Rnd 6: sl st into next st – ch3 – dc in next dc – double V in ch2 sp – dc in
next 2 dc’s – *sk next 2 dc’s – dc in next 2 dc’s – double V in ch2 sp – dc in
next 2 dc’s**repeat around joining with
sl st to top of ch3
Rnd 7: sl st into next st – ch3 – dc in next 2 dc’s – single V in ch2 sp – *dc in
next 3 dc’s – sk next 2 dc – dc in next 3 dc’s – single V in ch2 sp** repeat around joining with sl st to top of
Rnd 8: (finishing boarder round) sl st into next st – ch1 – sc in next 2 dc’s –
*3 sc in ch2 sp – sc in next 3 dc’s – sk next 2 dc’s – sc in next 3 dc’s* *
repeat around joining with sl st to beginning ch1.Finish off.Weave in tails.
Every day is a day to be thankful.... but "Thankful Thursday" is a little something I like to do to be able to Stop for a minute in the middle of the week and really reflect on life!
So.... This Thursday.... I am Thankful for.....
} spending time with my son and his wife while they were here
} Thursday night church service
} spending time with my cousin Kelly
} being back on the "losing weight" wagon again
} healthy snacks
} more coffee
} getting things done
} feeling better than I did yesterday
} a good amount of orders still coming in on my Flower Shop
} my fur babies
} another cup of coffee
Have a wonderfully thankful Thursday everyone....
hugs...love and blessings Tammy
** ...but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. - Isaiah 40:31 **
☔☁☕~ Afternoon all............... Wow.... what a day. I have been so exhausted today. I don't know what my problem is!! I feel like I haven't slept in days. I think my allergies are kicking me too. My eyes are so itchy and to top it all off.. I have one heck of a headache. Sheeeeeesh! But I did get to see my babies ONE LAST time before they leave today. Patrick and K. stopped by the office today to say good-bye. Boy was that emotional!! I've been crying on and off since they left! I have such awesome people around me at work. Got a couple hugs from a couple of super sweet ladies. I love my "work family"
I miss these two!
I'm so glad they stopped by! As much as I was missing them as they left... it made my day to get one more hug! Travel save my loves!
My mom and I have a "Vacation Savings/piggy bank" that we have been putting money into for taking trips. We are looking at our first trip to be visiting Patrick and K.
☁ ☕ ~ Good Evening all my friend and family! I took today off work to spend with my son Patrick and his beautiful bride K. They leave tomorrow to head back to Florida... so I wanted to have one last whole day with them!
It was a wonderful day of just visiting and relaxing. They came over bright and early .... had coffee and visited... then Patrick made us eggs and bagels for breakfast.... YUM. We sat around and enjoyed visiting more... sharing stories... walking down memory lane... and just catching up!
We then had a lovely lunch at ~el bee's~ YUM YUM
Chicken Taco Salad
Enchilada with beans and rice
Finished off our time together with a fresh pot of coffee.. laughing and relaxing. I am so glad I had this day to spend with my babies before they leave! I'm so proud of them and so grateful for any time I get to be with them when they come home to visit!
☀ ☕~ Good Morning...... I wanted to share a pattern that a fellow crochet artist had shared many years ago. I myself had made a few as gifts. I came across it the other day and thought it would make a fun summer bag. So here I am to share it with all of you!
☀ ☕ ~ Goooooood Morning......
I'm feeling quite thankful today ... even with all the struggles and trials going on in my life right now.
= my Lord God loves me like He does
= I woke up this morning ... new day... new decisions ... continued walk with God
= for coffee with my mom this morning
= the new alarm system at work .... worked
= my son Patrick and his wife K coming home for a visit! So good to see them!
= for all the hard work my daughter-in-law K. and her father did on Monday!
= I was able to get a couple hours of sleep last night with out nightmares
= for more coffee!
= I'm almost done writing up a crochet pattern (new version) of my favorite crochet dishcloth.
= for babybel cheese and sesame sticks as a snack (watching my sugar intake)
= I've been getting some of my WIPs done
= for church service tonight!!!
= this month has been a good month for my flower seed business
= for my children!! I love them so very much!!!
= for coffee... coffee... coffee
= knowing that I can love someone unconditionally even if they don't love me back! God teaches us that by loving Everyone of His creations (children) even if they don't love Him back.
= God shows me all the blessings in my life even when my eyes and heart are filled with tears
☕ ~ Afternoon all.... I decided to take a little break to show you my latest WIP. Yep... another 12 point round ripple! :) I'm not sure yet if I will add a little color to it or not. I love making these! They are quick... very easy... and come out so darn pretty! This has always been my "go to" Baby Blanket pattern! Of course I made all my grandbabies a 12 point round ripple when they were born! ❤
☕ ~ Good Afternoon my dear friends and family! Hope today is finding you well and your day is blessed! I'm doing well and my day is definitely blessed!!! 5 of my 6 babies are here today for a family BBQ! Patrick and K came home for a visit! My heart is so full right now! The weather is lovely... High 60s / Low 70s! Sun is out ... but its also a bit cloudy ... so its perfect for grilling out!!
Here we have Patrick showing his brothers Michael and Christopher how to be silly and still grill the best hamburgers... hot dogs and brats! :)
My son-in-law Jared sitting with his sweet daughter ... waiting patiently for the food.
Oh... here we go... Food is getting set out! My daughter-in-law K... son David and grandson Evan are finishing up the deviled eggs! YUM!
Well... my daughter-in-law Patricia is first in line. LOL
Look at that beautiful pose!! She sure is proud of herself getting to the food first!
I love that girl!!!
Finally everyone sitting down to enjoy a wonderful collection of food!
My son David... my son the grill master Patrick ... and my son Christopher
And here is my beautiful Daughter Jamie!
My sweet girl! Laughing at her brothers and enjoying herself!
Enjoying the sun and each others company!
~Patricia... Jared... my son Michael... Michael's girl Gracie... K... and my mom!
Patrick & K.
Hope you all have as much of a wonderful day as I am! I LOVE having my babies around me! hugs...love & blessings to you all Tammy💕
............ is Just Two Imperfect People Who Refuse to Give Up on Each Other
Expecting the Expected
Jim got sick and had to forsake his climb up the corporate ladder. This brought stress into his marriage to Jen that he would never have anticipated. Brad and Savannah got busier and busier and quit communicating as they should, and their relationship paid the price. Brent struggled with a secret sin for years, and when Liz discovered it, it almost ended their marriage. India and Frank always seemed to be in a battle for control. It was an exhausting marriage to be a part of. Alfie and Sue never seemed to be in the same place spiritually. Jared and Sally had an infectious affection for one another, but their financial woes brought much stress to their marriage. Jung’s mother pulled her into loyalty battles again and again. It caused lots of conflict between her and Kim.
There are two observations to make about all these marriages. First, none was a bad marriage. No one was about to walk out. No one had been unfaithful as yet. There had been no abuse or violence. But none was experiencing what God had in mind when he created their union in the first place. And all of them were surprised at what they had to face as a couple.
Second, everything that each couple faced is predicted by command, principle, proposition, or perspective in the Bible. These couples should have expected the expected. If they had approached the Bible as a wonderful window onto their marriage, they would have known what to expect and not been surprised at what came their way.
So what are the essential wisdom perspectives that Scripture gives us that enable us to have realistic expectations for our marriage?
1. You Are Conducting Your Marriage in a Fallen World
We all face the same thing. Our marriages live in the middle of a world that does not function as God intended. Somehow, someway, your marriage is touched every day by the brokenness of our world. Maybe it simply has to do with the necessity of living with the low-grade hassles of a broken world, or maybe you are facing major issues that have altered the course of your life and your marriage. But there is one thing for sure: you will not escape the environment in which God has chosen you to live. It is not an accident that you are conducting your marriage in this broken world. It is not an accident that you have to deal with the things you do.
God decided to leave you in this fallen world to live, love, and work, because he intended to use the difficulties you face to do something in you that couldn’t be done any other way. You see, most of us have a personal happiness paradigm. Now, it is not wrong to want to be happy, and it is not wrong to work toward marital happiness. God has given you the capacity for enjoyment and placed wonderful things around you to enjoy. The problem is not that this is a wrong goal, but that it is way too small a goal. God is working on something deep, necessary, and eternal. If he was not working on this, he would not be faithful to his promises to you. God has a personal holiness paradigm. Don’t be put off by the language here. The words mean that God is working through your daily circumstances to change you.
So, somehow, someway, this fallen world and what it contains will enter your door, but you do not have to be afraid. God is with you, and he is working so that these grieving things will result in good things in and through you.
2. You Are a Sinner Married to a Sinner
You and I just don’t get to be married to someone perfect. It seems true when you read it, but even though this seems obvious, many people get married with unrealistic expectations about who they are marrying. Here is the point: you both bring something into your marriage that is destructive to what a marriage needs and must do. That thing is called sin.
Most of the troubles we face in marriage are not intentional or personal. In most marriage situations, you do not face difficulty because your spouse intentionally did something to make your life difficult. Yes, in moments of anger that may happen. But most often, what is really happening is that your life is being affected by the sin, weakness, and failure of the person you are living with. So, if your wife is having a bad day, that bad day will splash up on you in some way. If your husband is angry with his job, there is a good possibility that he will bring that anger home with him.
At some point you will be selfish. In some situation you will speak unkindly. There will be moments of jealousy, bitterness, and conflict. You will not avoid this, because you are a sinner and you are married to a sinner. If you minimize the heart struggle that both of you have carried into your marriage, here’s what will happen: you will tend to turn moments of ministry into moments of anger. When your ears hear and your eyes see the sin, weakness, or failure of your husband or wife, it is never an accident; it is always grace. God loves your spouse, and he is committed to transforming him or her by his grace, and he has chosen you to be one of his regular tools of change. So, he will cause you to see, hear, and experience your spouse’s need for change so that you can be an agent of his rescue.
3. God Is Faithful, Powerful, and Willing
There is one more reality that you have to include as you are trying to look at your marriage as realistically as possible. Not only must you consider the fallenness of the world you live in and the fact that both of you are less than perfect, but you must also remember that you are not alone in your struggle. The Bible says that God is near, so near that in your moment of need you can reach out and touch him because he is not far from each one of us (Acts 17:27). Yes, you live in a bad neighborhood (fallen world), and the two of you are less than perfect (sin), but in all this you are not left to your own resources. The God who determined your address lives there with you and is committed to giving you everything you need.
Consider for a moment what the empty tomb of the Lord Jesus Christ teaches us. First, it teaches us that God is faithful. Centuries earlier, after Adam and Eve had disobeyed God, God promised that he would crush wrong once and for all. So he sent his Son to defeat sin and death by his crucifixion and resurrection. He made a promise, and he controlled the events of history (large and small) so that at just the right moment Jesus Christ would come and fulfill what had been promised.
But the open tomb also reminds us that God is powerful. He is powerful in authority and powerful in strength. Could there be a more pointed demonstration of power than to have power over death? By God’s awesome power, Jesus took off his grave clothes and walked out of that tomb.
The empty tomb points us to one more amazing thing. It teaches us that God is willing. Why would he go to such an extent to help us? Why would he care to notice us, let alone rescue us? Why would he ever sacrifice his own Son? Because he is willing. You and I need to recognize that his willingness was motivated not by what he saw in us but by what is inside of him. He is willing because he is the definition of mercy.
So, when you are sinned against or when the fallen world breaks your door down, don’t lash out or run away. Stand in your weakness and confusion and say, “I am not alone. God is with me, and he is faithful, powerful, and willing.” You can be realistic and hopeful at the very same time. Realistic expectations are not about hope without honesty, and they are not about honesty without hope. Realism is found at the intersection of unabashed honesty and uncompromising hope. God’s Word and God’s grace make both possible in your marriage.
.:: God.... my Lord & Savior ... He is always with me even when I'm not paying attention!
.:: fresh brewed coffee first thing in the morning to start your day off just right
.:: one day closer to the weekend
.:: one of my babies coming home to visit.... BBQ time with the family!
.:: Church service tonight!
.:: getting some crocheting done!
.:: endless coffee at work :)
.:: my sweet boy Michael feeling better today
.:: a little shopping fun with my mom at Menards tonight before Church
.:: my Christian radio station
.:: my Family
.:: my Friends
.:: Starbucks coffee for the ride home after work!
Not everyday do you feel thankful... and that's okay. The world can be rough... and we know Satan is good at what he does when it comes to lying to us!
But today........... try this.............. think of just 3 things you are thankful for. Write them down.
With each thing... that's one step away from Satan and one closer to God. Just 3 to start.
Yes.... a cup of coffee counts! :)
Have a wonderfully Thankful Thursday!
hugs... love and blessings Tammy💕
☀ ☕~ Good Morning everyone.............
So.... I've been busy ... not crazy busy... just satisfying busy with my crocheting. I wanted to take a quick minute to post one of my favorite things I like to do.
** Make dishcloths/washcloths **
This is my favorite set to make. Quick .. Easy .. and just right for a gift or to sell!
Like I said... these make great gifts. Here are some gift ideas.... Add....
1) a wooden spoons and a favorite recipe
2) a very small bottle of dish soap and a fun coffee cup
3) a whisk and a boxed brownie or muffin mix
~For the shower/tub..... Add....
4) a bar of soap
5) a bottle of body wash
6) a fun travel kit
Well... I'm off to work on something else. Have a great day everyone!
......Can be so tough sometimes!! I have to keep reminding myself I am God's child!! Not Satan's!!
The battle is not mine... its the Lord's. Whenever I feel like giving up or giving in... remember that my strength comes from the Lord! Whenever I'm down and out and can't seem to pick myself up... remember that my strength comes from the Lord! When I feel weak and overwhelmed... remember that my strength comes from the Lord! Don't dare give up! God has amazing things in store for me! During the battle... the Lord will fight for me! During the trial... the Lord will strengthen me! During the test... the Lord will encourage me! I shall be a conqueror, I am a part of a royal priesthood, I am the head and not the tail, I shall prevail in this life, I will defeat the enemy and I will inherit eternal life.. through Christ Jesus our Lord!
This weekend was really rough!! I was weak... I gave up...gave in. I have to remind myself... I'm a weak human... that's why I NEED God! Satan is so good at turning that against me though! Using my weakness to tell me I'm not worthy of God! Satan is a liar!!
I AM A CHILD OF GOD... LOVED BY HIM UNCONDITIONALLY!!! Please... if you're struggling with Satan and his lies....
Don't Give Up!
Give It To God!!!
3 years ago I held your hand while our children stood around you and I said something that made you smile one last time. I think about that every minute of every day. I know this is all God's plan. I just wasn't ready for it though! I wasn't ready to be alone. I wasn't ready to never hear one of you really silly "dad jokes" again. I wasn't ready to never hear you cheer on your children.(pound the iro...n) I wasn't ready to never take a walk with you. I wasn't ready to never see that smile again!!! I'm still not ready!!! I know you're happy... and safe... and free of pain and worry. And I couldn't be more happy for you!! It hurt me to see you struggle. But I cant help being human and selfish...Being without you..... 😢sometimes.... is more than I can stand! You're a good man Kenneth Carlton! I MISS YOU! ~ ich liebe dich ~